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Wednesday, February 17, 2010

First off, I would like to apologize for calling you "narrow-minded", for attributing this to a large fraction of the white male population interested in Asian women. I understand how it is not narrow-minded for you to feel this way in the sense that you have dealt with this, seen it, and experienced it yourself for years. And I have acknowledged and do acknowledge that. However, I feel like you aren't satisfied with simply that acknowledgement, that you don't think I fully acknowledge, comprehend, and understand this concept until I am on the same page as you with thinking or believing that the majority of interracial relationships out there involve this perversion, based on the facts that you presented, such as how 'ubiquitous' this problem has become, worldwide. But that is not true. And I have never once defended the majority of the world like you said, so to say that would be putting words in my mouth too. Believing that it is not happening in the majority of interracial relationships is not the same thing as "standing up for the majority of the world". I am focusing on and addressing individual cases of interracial relationships. This is different from the widespread media portrayal of Asian men and women, and different from me thinking that it isn't an influence, because I do agree that it is.

I know what you're going to say, that when I argue, I only argue for the exception. But that is what the nature of an argument is all about, pointing out the exceptions. This doesn't even really apply anyway, because I already know you know there are exceptions. What we have been arguing about is different from this anyway.

You may be trying to prove a point by talking about the ubiquity of it happening within the U.S. --and around the world, and even going as far as delving into WHY it's happening, to say that this, and the media, and much more is influencing these individual cases. And I CAN see how that is happening, I am not denying it one bit. But I stand firm on believing that there are numerous cases out there of men not liking an Asian female for these reasons, even though things such as physical appearance might influence attraction, which is completely normal. This is why I was frustrated to hear such as statement as "it is happening in the majority of cases" despite my knowledge of the ubiquity of it, if that makes any sense.

To reiterate, I want to get it straight that ---I am NOT standing up for the majority of the world. So don't put words in my mouth. I am not saying I have never been aware of it. This is frustrating for me because I don't know how many times I can tell you that I understand this concept, that I have seen it in my life before, for you to understand that it's not the same as agreeing with you on it's instances in cases.

Do you think I am not frustrated about this as well? I know I may not you, I am not an Asian male, or even a white male for this matter, but I am just as impacted and bothered by all of this, especially because I AM an Asian female. You are right, I HAVE experienced this first-hand, and I have been hurt by it, in different ways than you have, and have dealt with it firsthand as well to understand what this means to me. It's not soemthing that I am not proud of it. I am actually very ANGRY about it. And sad to look back and can see clearly that I fell in love with someone who dated me not for me, but for something else.

Bottom line is, you can call it naive or anything you'd like, but it's taking me time to see and believe that the majority is like this. I know you are basing this opinion based on your personal experiences, exposure, and accounts, and research. And I am right now acknowledging that. I simply can't change my mind over night based on YOUR experiences and accounts though. It is more clear to me now and recently BUT what is going on, again, it is NOT proof or evidence that it is happening with the relationships that I do see. This is frustrating for you, but this is frustrating for me too.

Frankly, I just want to be done with this as well. I do appreciate
you typing out all that you did though. I learned some things.

Chi was here @ 11:36 AM [ ]

It's time to be bold about who you really are.

You should understand that being different is fantastic. In fact, rejoice in all those things that make you different. Ultimately, it’s not how you look or what group you’re in that will determine your success in the world. I think you can carve new territory, you can do something completely out of the box, and if it is an act of love and goodness, it will be completely embraced---as bizarre as that may seem.

If you have faith in your real self, you’ll suffer less. You won’t waste valuable time that could be spent on more important things. There’s no time to waste. It’s time to be bold about who you really are.

Be passionate about what you do. ** MENTAL DISCIPLINE ** Stay true to yourself. Be confident. Pre-program your mind for success. Success is the best revenge. Remember everything about everyone. THINK before you SPEAK. and LISTEN carefully. Knowing yourself is the essence of being alive. If you have a goal, you can definitely accomplish it. You can do anything you set your mind to. Break through the barriers of pain, laziness, fear, and mediocrity. You have the power of free will. It is never too late to be the person you might have been.

Life is short.

Life comes with no guarantees, no time outs, no second chances, you just have to live life to the fullest. Laugh as much as you can, spend all your money, tell someone what they mean to you, tell someone off, speak out, dare to be different, dance in the pouring rain, hold someone's hand, comfort a friend, pig out, fall asleep watching the sun come up, stay up late, smile until your face hurts. Don't be afraid to take chances or fall in love and most of all, live in the moment because when you look back someday, knowing you have no regrets it's going to be what makes you smile.
Have a good day!

Faith is the substance of all things hoped for. ** PHYSICAL DISCIPLINE ** Always act as if you are being videotaped. Always have good posture Pray (remember God) Read the news Take fish oil Constantly volunteer, do things, be active. Learn.

Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate, but that we are powerful beyond measure.